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Summer Learning

While many of our campers have already been enjoying school for a few weeks, most will be starting on Tuesday of next week. I know everyone would be excited to just get back to camp instead of picking up the math books. Campers, remember, you will learn important things at school, too.

As we prep for the buses to roll and get dolled up for those ‘first morning’ pics, I’d like to remind you of a few things you learned this past summer that will help you through the first few days (and longer) of school.

Turn It Up

When we turn up joy, we turn down fear. When we turn up generosity, we turn down envy. When we turn up humility, we turn down false pride.

Humility is a great word and even better way to live your life.  The word humility comes from the Latin word ‘humus’ which means ‘fertile ground.’ That’s ground on which lots of things can easily grow. Humility doesn’t mean thinking less about yourself but rather thinking of yourself less and others more. It’s about serving and celebrating others rather than serving or celebrating yourself.

So, when we turn the humility knob up to maximum blast, what happens to the false pride knob? Right – it gets turned down. Here’s a question: how do we turn humility up? What’s the key that will unlock the dial so you can turn it up?

The key is gratitude.

Realizing that you’ve benefited from others actions – be it your friend, your parents, your camp counselors, Yaweh, Buddha, Jesus or Mother Nature – is the first really big step. Saying ‘thank you’, especially if it is heartfelt and honest, is wonderful. Do that in school and I guarantee you’ll turn heads for all the right reasons.  

Cups or Fires

Will you treat your brain as a cup to be filled or as a slow moving fire search for new ideas? If you feed the fire, the light, the warmth inside you with new information and old wisdom through connection and questions and curiosity, you’ll go far. The stuff on your phone, tiktok or insta or snap… most of that stuff is just entertainment. It doesn’t feed your fire. In fact, I’d guess the long-term effect is actual a dampener on your fire than a fuel.

In fact, there will be a lot of fuels that don’t work. Others will give you a quick burst but go out just as quickly. But, if by experimenting and searching, you find the right fuel for the long, slow burn. Tend that fire well and it will burn brightly for a long, long while.

In my experience, the best fuel is an attitude of curiosity and of humility.

It may seem easier or cooler to live as though you know everything already. That’s your choice. And you get to live with the consequences of that choice. You can choose to be ungrateful, spiteful, uncaring. You can choose to use terrible language and decide not to listen to people who truly care and want the best for you.

Or, you can choose to be grateful, thoughtful, patient, curious, kind, honest, helpful and friendly.

Remember, your choices make you who you are. But you want the best news? If you find yourself making bad choices… you can change.

Courage to Connect

It takes courage to go past your comfort zone and connect. It’s lot easier to be furious rather than curious. There is something very old inside us that wires us for big emotional reactions and for keeping to our own. These impulses probably kept the human race limping forward.

Now, that mentality holds us back. Campers, you are lucky enough to live in time when things would be considered miraculous to any human living before you from 1960 until the dawn of time. As a parent once wrote, imagine dental work without pain killers…. Yeesh!

It takes courage to put yourself out there. It takes courage to reach out. And, the reward for doing so completely and totally outweighs the opposite. Yes, you might feel awkward. But, as you learned at camp this summer, it’s important.

Reach out. Be yourself. You are more than enough.

Swim and Howl

Be aware of the little things around you. Be kind to the bus driver, the custodian, the Lunch Lady. They are a seemingly small part of your day but their work makes your life easier and, in most cases, a lot better. The ‘water through which we swim’ at school is full of a lot of fish – some big, some small. They all deserve to be treated kindly.

And, while we have fish swimming all around us, remember you’ve got two wolves inside you. One is Good and the other is Not. The one that wins is the one you feed. Choose wisely.

Camper – have a great year at school. You learned a lot this past summer. Now, go put it into practice and make the little world around you a better one every day.

Fulcrum of Choice

I’ve written about choosing and choice and joy before. Heck, I’ve even written about choosing joy

Over the past two years, that choice was challenging. In fact, there were times many when we all forgot it was a choice at all. I recently ran into a fantastic quote that helped me:

Joy is not a function of a life free of friction and frustration, but a function of focus — an inner elevation by the fulcrum of choice.

Maria Popova

It’s a beautiful reminder and one I wanted to share with you. (It’s also a great way to remind myself.)

You can read the full piece from which I pulled the above quote here. I’ve often been nourished by Maria’s work. She’s one of a kind.

Weequahic, we’ve got a lot to celebrate, a lot for which we can and should be grateful.

In order to get ready for an amazing summer, let’s start by recognizing all of the little things which bring us joy around us. Practicing the celebrations of micro-joys will build a habit that leads to more joy, more engagement and more life. 

Recognizing the bad, the unfair, the difficult is easy. Take the harder path and recognize the joy despite everything else. The work will be worth it. 

Have a great weekend!

The Choice

Do you want to be happy or upset? Choose to have a bunch of friends or be alone? Live in an organized or scattered fashion?

I rarely take the time to really think about those choices. A quote from a much smarter writer spurred me to think about them more thoughtfully.

Look at the above sentences themselves. All are questions needing an answer. The answers can only come from within the person listening to the questions themselves. They are all choices. How you live answers have a lot of (good and/or challenging) consequences. Effort is required on either side of the choice you make.

It may seem easier to live as though everything is planned out already. This is an old way of thinking and one, frankly, that doesn’t work for me. It feels too much like a cop out. “I gained weight because I’m meant to gain it. The sleeve of cookies I eat each daily and my lack of exercise have nothing to do with it.” Nah….

I’m a big believer in ‘free will’ – you get to choose. If that is the case, then the ‘choose’ part is hugely important. In fact, the older I get, the more I believe it’s one of the most important things for us humans.

The Good News

Carols Castaneda, writer of 16 books including The Lessons of Don Juan, shares some good news on this point:

“The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.”

This goes hand-in-hand with one of my top five quotes of all-time:

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

Viktor Frankl

Weequahic, we have a choice. Every day, every moment, every breath – we get to choose how to react. It’s simple to live this way… but it’s not easy. The closer we get, though, to putting these ideas into daily practice, the more likely are our best-selves to shine through.

So go make yours.