Seth Godin recently wrote that, when thinking about memories…
“We don’t actually remember much of what happens. Instead, we get what we’ve rehearsed.
If we fail to rehearse, the memory will fade.
And if the memory isn’t serving us, we can work to stop rehearsing it.
Choosing what we rehearse is a way of choosing who we will become.
Summer Memories, Fall Rehearsal
What will you remember from this past summer? What will you rehearse in your mind?
Will it be showing courage in the face of missing home or getting to make new friends? Perhaps you’ll rehearse trying something new or making it to the top of the climbing tower or getting up on stage in front of everyone.
Could it be reaching out a hand to someone who needed some support, asking for help when you needed it, or making the decisions about what you ate, what you wore, or how you reacted to everything without your parents close by?
What will you choose to forget, to let fall away? What memory or thought or habit do you want to let go of? Remember: you’ve got that memory, thought or habit; it doesn’t have you.
A long time ago, a teacher of mine relayed a story that touches exactly on this point.
Fred Couples, then the greatest golfer in the world, got my teacher’s attention and asked, “Doc, before I hit a shot, I think of the best shot I’ve ever hit with that club. Is that good?”
“Yes, Freddy. That’s pretty good,” Dr. Rotella replied with a rye grin.
You get a lot of what you rehearse. Make sure you are seeing yourself succeed and then work towards accomplishing that goal. Will it be a perfect result? Certainly not. But, you’ve got a much better shot at making it great than by just ‘winging it.’
Be thoughtful. Remember the good stuff, take the lessons from failure, and battle on. Have a great week!