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Receiving a Gift

April 18th, 2025

A big portion of our little world recognizes (and celebrates) this weekend. Our Jewish friends observe Passover. Our Christian friends celebrate Easter. Therefore, I thought it to be a good time to think about receiving gifts… though not in the way you may be thinking.

First, let’s start with our fabulous, wonderful brains. (See? Curveball….)

Your Brain

Your incredible brain has three major levels which have developed over time. The oldest is called the ‘brainstem.’ You don’t really think about this one because it runs a lot of your body on its own. This keeps us breathing, our hearts beating and more… even when we sleep. This is the oldest part of our brains.

The ‘limbic system’ is all about feelings and memories. It helps you feel things like happiness, sadness, or excitement. It also helps you remember stuff, like your favorite birthday party or how to ride a bike. It’s like the part that makes you say, “Yay!” when you get ice cream or “Uh-oh” when you’re scared. This part is younger than our brainstem but older than the last part….

The ‘cortex.’ This is the brain’s smart boss, the wrinkly outer part that makes you super clever. It helps you think, solve problems, talk, and make plans, like deciding what game to play or figuring out a math problem. It’s what makes you, YOU—helping with imagination, creativity, and making choices.

So… Why is the Brain Important to this Discussion?

Good question. Here’s the answer: because you have a lot of control over the cortex and very little control over the limbic system. (And, unless you are some very highly trained monk, you won’t have any control over the brainstem.)

When you feel scared – whether in ‘real life’ or in your own head (which, by the way, are the same thing…) – your limbic system starts to react. It remembers things hurting or things threatening and it tells your body to get ready to react to save yourself from that perceived danger.

Your heart rate goes up. You actually get a little stronger. Your reaction time increases. You might feel those ‘little butterflies’ in your stomach.

When you feel safe, things are different. Your body’s ‘safety system’ goes into a receptive mode – you are more relaxed, calm, and able to thoughtfully handle what is coming your way. If you feel safe, you can take on big thing with a clear mind. The limbic system has relaxed… it’s remembering the good stuff and having the cortex help it along.

Receiving a Gift

Now that we know how the brain works (a little) and a bit of difference between the ‘react’ state and ‘receive’ state, let’s talk about gifts.

Can you receive a gift with your hands all balled up and closed or with your arms crossed against your chest? Nope. You’ve either gotten yourself ready to fight (hands balled up) or protect yourself (arms crossed.) You are ready to react.

No, you need your arms out and hands open and ready to receive something. In other words,  you need to feel safe. You’ve got to quiet your ‘safety systems’ and be receptive to what is coming your way.

How do you do that? A couple of ideas as it relates to jumping in beautifully at camp this summer:

  1. Imagine things going really well. A smile on your face, hearing a bunch of friendly voices from counselors and campers alike, great weather and a fabulous setting.
  2. Make a plan for when things go a little sideways: Who will you ask for help? (Pick me! Or your counselors! Or Camp Mom Judy! Or your DH! The list is long….) What happens when you feel someone isn’t being so friendly? (Be patient and keep smiling.) When you miss home, how will you approach those feelings?
  3. Truly understand and believe this: We are excited to get you to camp and sooooo many people will be there who just want to be your friend just as you are. You don’t need to change a thing.
  4. Lastly – express your thankfulness to your family for making this happen. Gratitude opens up a lot of good things.

See You Soon!

Ok – that’s enough for today. To recap: your brain will put you either in a reactive or receptive state. Feeling danger/worry makes you reactive which doesn’t always help in the long term. Practice thinking about and prepare for things to go great this summer and be receptive. That’s how you can best receive the gift of camp.

See you soon!

Velcro and Teflon

April 4th, 2025

Strange title? Probably. But bear with me – I promise there is something useful in those two words.

I’ve written and spoken about our species’ incredible survival to this point. A lot of it can be pointed at our brains’ quick and powerful recognition of risk and danger. This is what kept us – as a species – alive when there were a LOT of things in the world that wanted to eat us for breakfast.

This drive is so powerful, so ingrained in our brains, that it makes all of us humans have a powerful ‘negativity bias.’ That means that when something bad happens, we react with ‘Well… sure. That was always going to go bad.” That thought normally leads to “And I won’t do that again!”

When we were dealing with saber-tooth tigers or eating berries that make you really sick, that’s a great way to approach things. These negative experiences stick to our mind like Velcro. They dig their little hooks into the soft cloth of our minds and just stay there, always reminding us of that negative experience. The remind us to stay safe!

But… What about the Good Stuff?

So, if we – as a species – are predisposed to save the bad experiences in our heads, do we get to really enjoy the good stuff? Absolutely! We humans have always loved dancing around the (controlled) fire, sharing a good meal with close friends, laughing and loving.

We have always sought the good experiences and always will. The problem? When it comes to the good stuff, our mind is bit like Teflon – if we aren’t careful, those good moments hit our brains and just slide right off.

Think about it a moment. What is more powerful in terms of memory? The good or the negative?

I still remember the pain and surprise of getting hit in the face with a snowball when I was 6 years old. I don’t remember anything about the fun we had before or after that in the snow. I can recall with great clarity and detail the worst ‘staff management’ moment in my life but I have a hard time bringing up many of the incredible moments with staff.

But here’s the thing – the negativity bias, while it helped keep us alive, hurts the heck out of us. In this day and age, it’s useful when you’re around a hot stove or walking across the street or avoiding that really mean dog a few houses down.

Power and Practice

But living the negative also cuts us off from experiences that could open up your world, expand your connections and help you soar through life. Are there risks in the world? You bet.

But… is it actually ‘scary’ to make a new friend? It may feel awkward at first but that person in front of you is just that – another person who has the same anxieties and fears as you!

So how do we use the Velcro in our minds to get the good experiences to ‘stick?’ It involves something we do at camp: thinking about and sharing the good.

Simple? You bet! When you take a few moments to remember and share those great moments in the day, you start to ‘seat’ that good memories and moments into your brain.

Is it best to do in the moment? Yes. When you get off the zip line and after you’ve celebrated with your friends, close your eyes and re-live the experience – the zip and the high fives – for about 10 seconds. Same thing when you’ve made a new friend or shared an awesome meal or laughed with your buddies.

But you can also do it at night before you go to bed. The key is being intentional about it. And, if you share it with someone who you know cares for you, you’ll make the memory even more powerful.

Good Results from Thinking about the Good

The more we do this, the negative bias we all have will start to change more towards the ‘positive bias’ or looking for the good. It takes time and intention but it’s not hard. And, it’s the best way to open up your life.

So… now that you know, what will you do? When you get to camp, I bet it’ll be easy to figure out what we want for you. Get ready to share your happies!

See y’all soon.

**This idea comes from Dr. Rick Hanson and his book, Hardwiring Happiness.

AI at Summer Camp

March 31st, 2025

As we all know, AI is no longer ‘fast approaching’ but already here. And, while camp will remain the traditionally awesome place your kids have loved, full of GAC and the life lessons which can only be taught at camp, we need to move along (a bit) with the times.

Kate and I have spent a lot of time researching AI to figure out how it can best help us at Weequahic. We are excited to let you know about how we’ll be using this new tool at camp.

Improved ordering and inventory control

We’ve got a LOT of t-shirts and gear we use each summer. Keeping tabs on our current inventory and placing the correct orders has been a challenging to this point. AI will help us tighten up and streamline the process.

Improved Workflows for Program

While the campers love our daily program – they get to pick but enjoy the activity only with their age groups – it takes a lot of work to set up and run on the backend. AI has already reduced the workload on our programming team and we expect the time savings to continue.

The Nightly News from Cole

Yes, this has been a wonderful labor of love from Director Cole, let’s face it – he’s getting old. So, we’ve trained an AI bot on all of his during the summer ‘nightly news’ posts. The new bot will do the majority of the writing, taking into account the meals, Evening Activities and more. Cole will review it before posting… but we’re sure it’ll be close enough.

Photos and Videos

We are expecting the ‘image engines’ to be powerful enough this summer to create great photos and videos of your kids playing, waterskiing and laughing together. So, rather than hiring videographers and photographers, we’ll just let AI create images for you. You’ll never know the difference! Lastly…

Office Management & Phone Calls

Yes, Office Manager Morgan is a superstar. She’ll get to shine even more as we’ve moved to an automated answering service that will be able to handle the vast majority of your questions during the summer. We’ve even trained it to sound just like Morgan! Anything the system cannot answer adequately will be passed on for Cole to answer… when he’s not waterskiing.

PHEW… so much new tech and we feel we’ve only scratched the surface. Perhaps we’ll be able to run camp with an AI staff? We’ll see. Can’t wait to see everyone at camp this summer!

Oh, and enjoy tomorrow… April 1st.

(PS – if you’ve not already figured it out, this is an April Fool’s post like a few before it…. Hope we got you for a little bit!)